We wish to stay anonymous to protect the innocent. However, we wish to offer some advice to those couples that are not only new to the lifestyle but, more specifically, have NEVER added a third party, i.e. friends, coworkers, etc. to their lovemaking. Hence the title “Virgin”.
We entered the lifestyle to add some spice to OUR lovemaking. The advice that we received from the website and the orientation was invaluable. Our purpose is to supplement the fantastic groundwork already laid down by those in the lifestyle.
We researched the lifestyle, searched our souls, talked about every possible scenario and decided to GO FOR IT! The first party we attended was full of anticipation, titillation, and hesitation. We danced with other couples, we talked and laughed with other couples and ultimately were waiting for another couple to ask US to join them in a private party. GUESS WHAT – It happened. An experienced couple did approach us and we decided to join them in their room. With no plan or etiquette on post-party activity we felt lost at sea. What followed was a blur of activity that left us reeling and did not accomplish our goal of pleasing each other.
In hindsight, our advice to “Virgin swingers” once you have decided to go to a room with another couple is simple. Start with each other the way you would at home, because if you find that either one of you is nervous for any reason you will be able to stop and excuse yourself from the party without feeling like you are offending them. Our mistake was to start with the other couples spouse. This brought about a disconnection to our own spouse and ultimately our goal of pleasing each other. We were having sex separately in the same room and NOT adding the spice to our sex that we were looking for.
We are very excited and looking forward to our next party. Based on our first experience we now know one of the pitfalls that “virgins” may fall into. We also are very aware of the wonderful possibilities that lay before us.
If you find yourself unsure of how to begin we hope that this might put you on the path to a successful experience that will minimize your anxiety. Remember, this is the first time that you have had sex in public. Do not make the mistake of adding to this by starting with a stranger.
From one set of “Virgins” to another.
Anonymous
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