I received your email this morning. We live in the Denver, Colorado area. We have both been married for the past 20 years, We have one daughter. The swinging lifestyle is different than most people perceive. Our outside friendships with other couples is based on friendship, not sex. Sex is NOT the main basis for our friendship or acquaintance. Sex is more of an added bonus. Some friends that we have made in the lifestyle are just that. We go out to dinner with them or grab a movie. We have them over for a backyard Bar-B-Que or they have us over and that is all there is to it. Some friends in the lifestyle things get a little more heated and sensual than that. It depends on which couple that you are with.

We live our lives, pay our taxes and maintain the status quo, like most people. When we do have fun with another couple, it provides an outlet for our sensual curiosities. We have had our 3somes, 4somes and moresomes. We feel that we are exceptional in that we give each other the permission to explore our personal fantasy's. We don't get jealous, maybe a little but we do communicate with each other. Communication is paramount. Most of all we each share our mates with others of like minds. You will find that most swingers have very stable marriages. Bottom line, "nobody gets hurt." physically or emotionally. Swinging is definitely not for everybody. When you establish friendships with other couples, you feel that you have known them your whole life. We don't have to impress each other, we get to be just ourselves with all our flaws overlooked. Thats the way real friends are. If ever there should come a time in our lives where we can't perform sexually or have some physical problems, we will still have our friends and they will not only understand but will provide comfort as well. Wealth is one thing but true friendship is true wealth.