While we all enjoy a ride on the wild side, we must keep in mind the positive social aspects of swinging. To many of us this is a lifestyle, and not just a weekend sport. The Webster dictionary defines "lifestyle" as: "the typical way of life of an individual, group, or culture", and it defines "sport" as: "to amuse oneself; a source of diversion, physical activity engaged in for pleasure." Many of us do engage in swinging as a sport, and that's OK, but to the vast majority of us, it is a lifestyle. The parties and wild nights of passion are coupled with evenings out to dinner, movies, social visits and the like. We wish swingers who engage in it as only a sport, would just refer to it as a "Sport" rather than a "Lifestyle". The problem is that many of the "weekend warriors" are hurting the lifestyle, from our point of view, by calling this lifestyle a "FUCK CLUB". They have no understanding of the social ramification of continuing to use such a label.

We do more than just "FUCK!" We go to church with other swingers (and straight people); we have picnics with other swingers; we go to personal family celebrations such as graduations, marriages, christenings, etc. We share our wealth of knowledge and talents to help each other, not just for a roll in the hay, but because we care about each other. Just as the so-called "straights" help out a friend, we do the same! We do more than just "FUCKING!"

Swing leaders who emphasize only the "sport" part, do harm to the lifestyle. Just imagine if a gay /lesbian person were to focus only on the sexual part of his/her lifestyle, it would negate "the whole being". Just imagine if a gay male only presented himself to the world as an "ass-fucker". This attitude would only limit him to being a sexual animal, driven only by lust. The end result would be less acceptance of the gay/lesbian lifestyle. It wasn't until the gay/lesbian community started focusing more on other aspects of their lifestyle (rather than only the sexual) that they began to gain power, respect and acceptance. Because of this, more gays/lesbains felt comfortable coming out of the closet . Sure I'll admit that there are gay/lesbians who only concentrate on the sexual side, and that's OK. We have been educated enough to know that the gay/lesbian lifestyle is more than just about sex.

Thus lies our dilema! Many of the "straight" people don't know that swingers are "normal" healthy people, just like them. They see us a sexual deviants, always walking around with our private parts in our hands, always craving sex, moment after moment, jumping from bed to bed, not in control of our sexual desires. Sure that happens.---we have sex with other people other than our partners and because we are free-sprited, we really know how to enjoy sex!!!! But we also know that this is not all we are about.

Club H's goal is do our part to empower the swinging lifestyle. To reach as many people as possible; to one day see us being accepted as an alternative lifestyle, with poitical and economic clout similar to that of the gay/lesbian lifestyle.

There are so many couples who are looking to this lifestyle for inner knowledge; to increase friendships with like minded people This is why we must make sure they are aware of both sides of the lifestyle. While we all enjoy the wild, sexual sides, we also enjoy the human factors. Friends getting together for social times, helping each other through the tough times, just being there to say you care and yes... screwing 'till we can't see straight. Put them in any order you like, just don't forget that they are all part of the lifestyle. Love your families, value your friends and enjoy the fruits of Hedonism.